The Real Reason Your Success Doesn't Feel Like Enough

Ever achieved something at work that should have felt great... but didn't?

I've been there. On paper, things looked good, but something felt missing. It took me a while to understand why:

There's a difference between actually contributing and feeling like you're contributing.

The Truth About Satisfaction

Making big contributions doesn't automatically lead to fulfilment.

You might be crushing it at your job without feeling satisfied.

Meanwhile, smaller acts that align with your values can bring profound joy.

Finding What Works For You

This clicked when I started one-on-one coaching as a side project.

Despite thinking "anyone could do this," these interactions gave me more satisfaction than some of my biggest professional wins.

Your source of fulfilment might be different:

• Mentoring others

• Creating art

• Building communities

• Teaching what you know

• Supporting causes you care about

The Self-Doubt Trap

We often downplay our impact: "It probably wasn't that helpful", "Anyone could have done that."

Sound familiar?

This self-doubt blinds us to our real contributions and blocks our satisfaction.

Make It Happen

Want to boost your feeling of contribution?

1. Notice when you feel genuinely fulfilled after helping others

2. Explore beyond your job - try volunteering or side projects

3. Stop downplaying your impact

Remember: The size of your contribution matters less than how it feels to you.

Find your way of making a difference - one that feels real to you, regardless of how it looks on paper.

I'm curious about what activities make you feel you're contributing. When was the last time you felt that spark?

These days, you can find me exploring my path through 1:1 coaching conversations. It's amazing how different types of contributions can unexpectedly light us up.

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That's me after a rough night of daddy duty - tired eyes, messy hair, but still smiling. Sometimes, contribution is simply showing up and doing your best.

Until next time,

Alex

📚 PS: If you enjoyed this reflection, check out "The Courage to be Disliked" - the book that sparked these insights.